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Thursday, September 11, 2014
Fear in Your Big Girl Pants
The Glitter Globe
The only thing scarier than stepping into the arena,
is never stepping inside.
Imagine this scenario. The camera zooms in on a
death bed scene. A wasted waif clutches onto sheets with skeletal fingers and
whispers profound last words. Oh, thank
God I never wrote the book! What if someone hadn’t liked it?
Well, thank God I drive a time travel jeep! Because
I’m going to drag your aching bones right out of that bed and take you right
back in time to today where I will stuff your yet-wasted hiney into the chair
and duct tape your hands to the keyboard if necessary. Start writing. I’ll
Here’s the deal. Not everyone will like your book.
Not even if you’re a best-selling novelist will everyone like your book. Does
everyone like The Bible? No, they do not. Does everyone like A Tale of Two
Cities? The Hobbit? Harry Potter? No, they don’t. We’re people and we’re not
always in a cooperative mood! So what? It’s time to cope, deal, tug on those
big girl (or big boy) pants and get to whatever it is you’re supposed to be
doing in life.
Like the skydivers say, Shut Up and Jump.
What’s going to happen if you do write a book? You’re
going to work really hard to finish it. After that you’re going to work really
hard to get it edited properly. After that you’re going to get someone else to
edit it even more properly, and it will be hard, and it will hurt, but when it
is finished you will find peace, for about sixty seconds, because then you will
have to get it published and market it—but don’t change the subject.
After you someday get all that work done, you will
drag yourself on bloody knees to look at your book reviews. Guess what? Not
everyone will like it. Know what? It doesn’t freaking matter. If you want to be
petted get a massage. You’re just going to have to write another book anyway. That’s
what you do, writer. You write. What if no
one likes your book? Now that’s a legitimate fear, but if that happens you
didn’t do your job, writer. This is how you write a book so that doesn’t happen.
Are you ready for it?
a book that you love. Write a book that you enjoy. I don’t give a flying flip
what the market says. Write for yourself.
If you do that I promise not everyone will dislike
it. You won’t. And if you love it, someone else will too—provided you had the
dang thing edited properly.
See, writing isn’t impossible! It’s just freaking
hard is all!
S. R. Karfelt
This message was brought to you by my muse. She is a
warrior and a butt-kicking ninja (it’s a thing). On one of my next posts I’ll
tell you how to Suck It Up, Big Boy, and deal with reviews that try to rip your
heart out. You might want to bring a bottle of Armor All for your backside for
In the meantime, gladiator, tell me why you’re still afraid to step
into the arena, because when my muse isn’t kicking bottoms, I’m happy to offer
a hand up. You can do hard stuff, didn’t anyone ever tell you that?